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How-To: Make Fisting Pleasurable for Girls

Fisting. Uh oh, we said it.

There’s a time when every taboo needs to be broken; first it was anal, and now it seems like fisting might be the new anal. Anal was once the unspeakable act that almost no-one dared try – and then they talked about it on Sex and the City, and it started being the staple of most porn films, and some how it stopped being shocking and scary anymore.

Anal products, like beads and plugs are marketed towards women. Women know that anal play can seriously enhance an orgasm, and somehow just like that it’s not shocking anymore. Fisting on the other hand (pun very much intended) is still shrouded in mystery.

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What is fisting?

Fisting is having your partner put their entire fist inside your vagina, for your mutual enjoyment.

That sounds painful

It can be. But if it’s done properly it’s actually extremely pleasurable.

Really? Why? 

For a few reasons. Firstly, it’s a feeling of fullness, and it can be extremely sexy to feel so fully dominated by your partner. You’re being filled up, and very small motions made by your partner will feel intense. Unsurprisingly. If your partner can their entire fist inside you then can then try to gently move their hand, which means their knuckles will push against your G-spot. Which is fun.

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How do you get a whole fist inside you? 

Slowly, carefully and with a lot of lube, in short. Your partner starts with one finger, massaging your vagina, moving it inside you, and then adds more fingers until he has three inside you. Your partner then squeezes those three fingers together into a triangular shape, and then attempts to add two more fingers. Your partner then massages your vagina more (we can’t over state how slowly this needs to be done) until eventually fitting their entire fist inside you. It’s very probable that it’ll take few attempts for your partner to be able to fist you fully.

Won’t I be all stretched and lose after?

Immediately after, yes. In the long run, no. Not at all. Most worries about vaginal stretching are based purely on myth. The only thing that’s likely to stretch your vagina is child birth, and even then doing vaginal tightening exercises can counteract that.

So… should I try it?

If you want to, then hell yes. But much like anal, and actually just like anything else sexual under the sun, only if you want to.

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  • Mya Libi

    Pro-tips on fisting:

    1. Imagine you’re reaching for the last Pringles in the tube (you get an idea of the hand shape) then as soon as you manage to get your knuckles (widest part of your hand) past the tight vagina opening immediately curl your hand up into a fist in one
    smooth motion.

    2. Unlike boxing, keep your thumb on the *inside* of your palm (i.e. curl your fingers around it) so as to hide your nail.

    3. Once you’re in, it’s not about moving your entire fist in and out (though you can get there with a bit of practice, and a willingness to feel a little sore and hide the grin and blush on your cheeks every time you sit down for a couple of days). As AFT suggests, the key is small movements – clench and unclench your fist, rotate gently, rub your knuckles on her g-spot – believe me less is more and everything your partner does will already feel mind-blowingly intense.

    4. Rubber medical gloves really helps. Gloves and lube makes everything so much more slippery, and you don’t have to worry about their nails – bonus point for that hint of doctor fetish.

    5. If it hurts, stop moving. Breathe. Relax. Take your time. There is a sort of trick to it (knowing when to push/relax). Mostly it’s about you and your partner finding the right rhythm together, about you knowing and controlling your body and them reading your responses. Yes, it’s not everyday sex, but if you’re looking for a very intense and bonding experience, fisting might just be it.

    • Scarlett de Winter

      Such great tips – thank you!