Much like double denim, oral sex can be amazing, or it can be pure evil.
Bad oral sex is painful. The person going down on you thinks that they’re doing something nice for you, but actually it’s wet and slimy and skin crawlingly bad – most easily comparable to having slugs all over your girl bits. Boys aren’t taught how to lick a girl out. And unlike girls who’ll exchange blow job tips at sleepovers, they don’t have the same culture of information sharing that we do. So here it is: The Ultimate Girl to Giving a Girl Head.
Spoiler: there is no one ultimate way to lick a girl out. Because we’re not engines, we’re people. The only real way to give amazing head is to listen to every noise she makes, and feel every movement she makes. Get so fluent in the way her body moves that you’re bilingual.
#1 Start Slow
Good sex has throw down, but when it comes to going down on her, she needs to ease into a little bit. For a lot of girls, having someone go down on you is more intimate than penetrative sex, so some caution is advised.
Start by kissing her thighs, moving inwards towards her vulva. That means that if she doesn’t want you to eat her out then she’s got ample opportunity to say no. If she moves her legs together, for God’s sake stop. And if you’re ever unsure, just ask.
“Do you want this?” said quietly whilst you look her straight in the eye is never going to be a turn off. You can always add “then ask me for it” for some spice…
#2 Build Up
Kiss her thighs and her outer labia, gently. You’re trying to increase the blood blow to her vulva. Gently brush your fingers over her. Tease her – oral sex shouldn’t ever be a rush.
The actual licking part of licking a girl’s bits should happen gently, short, gentle strokes of your tongue over her clit. And make sure it’s her clit that your licking. Pause intermittently to look at her, ask her if she likes it. Listen for moans, whimpers, sighs. Watch for twitches.
#3 Speed it Up
All girls like different levels of speed and intensity, so if it’s the first time, try different things and watch for each reaction. Tell her that you’re listening, that you want to hear her. Ask her to guide you, and pay attention when she does. Speed up your tongue’s motion on her clit, flick it back and forward. Experiment with dexterity and different patterns you can make, watching her all the time.
#4 Go Digital
Put one finger inside her vagina, about 2-3 inches deep. Watch her reaction. Gently crook your finger towards the front wall of her vagina (toward her belly button) and watch how she reacts. Ask if she wants you put another finger in her vagina. Now flick your tongue over her clitoris again. Listen for reaction.
Vary the intensity of your finger(s) as you move your tongue more quickly over her clitoris. Experiment with the depth of your finger – everyone’s g-spot is slightly different, but you’ll be able to feel a slightly raised bump and that’s what you’re aiming to stimulate.
If you’re flexible enough to have both hands free, you can either apply slight pressure with the flat of your hand on her lower stomach, therefore pushing her g-spot down towards your finger, or if you know she enjoys anal play, gentle push one of your fingers inside her anus. (Don’t do this unless you have express permition. It’s just rude otherwise.) Similarly, the female partner’s orgasm will be intensified by the addition of a butt plug.
#5 Don’t stop
The major skill to giving amazing oral sex is not to quit. It might take a little while for her to come- or you might be using it as foreplay before she comes later. But never start going down on a girl unless you’re intending to commit to it properly.
Once you’ve licked her clit and moved your finger against her g-spot (that’s why you’re crooking your finger upwards) hopefully your partner will be pretty close to coming. Commit to the pattern of movement and let her enjoy it, don’t vary it too much if it seems like she’s close to coming with what you’re doing.
When she starts to come, don’t stop. You can extend her orgasm considerably by keeping going whilst her orgasm reaches it’s peak. She’ll let you know when she wants you to stop, probably by closing her legs.Header and first image – courtesy of Curious Photos Black and white nudes – courtesy of Mighty Aphrodite Fourth image – courtesy of Afro Erotik Remaining images – courtesy of Pinterest